“Whoever has my commands and obeys them, he is the one who loves me.” John 14:21
For true intimacy and connection, it’s the other person’s definitions that matter most because intimacy does not mean the same thing for all people. I learned this early on in my marriage when I bought my wife a gas grill for her birthday. I used my definition of awesome/intimate and not hers. Result = Not good.
I think many followers of Christ make this same mistake by using their definitions and not God’s. Too often we love God using our definitions and the way we want to love Him as opposed to using God’s definitions and the way He wants to be loved.
So a key question is this: How does God want to be loved; what’s His definition?
I love the fact that God never leaves us to guess or speculate. His Word is the answer, to not only this question, but all others we will face too. In John 14:21, God clearly tells us the way He wants to be loved is by us obeying His commands. We express our love to God by obeying His commands and teachings.
This leads to another important point. To love God is to obey His commands but before we can obey them, do we even know that His commands are? Said a different way, how can we obey Jesus commands if we don’t know the commands in the first place?
1. Get in God’s Word daily and know what He says; know what God’s commands are
2. Let God’s commands sink deep in your heart; take them to heart
3. Ask God to help you obey
In our relationship with Jesus, it’s His definitions that matter most.